I’ve been thinking a lot about how we develop into the adults we are today, and the little lessons we learn along the way. While these lessons should be helpful, all too often they tend to give us a distorted view of the world.
Here are some of the biggest lessons I’ve learned along my way to becoming a ‘grown up’, good and not-so-good. Over the years I’ve learned to remember the good lessons and un-learn the bad ones, but sometimes still need reminding.
Some good lessons…
1. No matter how bad things seem, you will get through them
2. Live alone at least once in your lifetime, as this is when you will really get to know yourself
3. When you wake up in the morning, try and think of 5 or even 3 things to look forward to
4. The people you really want in your life will be there for you when you need them, and those that aren’t there for you aren’t worth worrying about
5. Chocolate does not make you fat, it makes you happy, so don’t waste time feeling guilty for being a chocoholic
6. Spend time with family and never forget how important they are, even if they piss you off
7. Life is not meant to be taken so seriously
8. Try and live you life without hurting any living thing around you
9. McDonald’s fries and Coke are the best thing ever for a hangover
10. Every woman should have divine perfume, gorgeous lingerie, a GHD, heels, nice jeans and some rocking dresses
Some not-so-good lessons…
1. Don’t ever show your interest in a boy or reveal your feelings
2. Love will get you through anything
3. You are what people tell you you are
4. A man who treats you badly must still care for you on some level
5. Being lusted after or wanted is the same as being loved or valued
6. Rather keep the peace and don’t fight back
7. Assertiveness is just as bad as aggressiveness
8. Don’t ever call a boy unless he’s called you first
9. You get what you put in to relationships
10. There is no such thing as a happy ending
Here here on the good lessons!
Hehe, totally!
We just have to learn to listen to the good stuff and not let ourselves believe the bad stuff.
Nice post … considering the shit i am going through lately / been through in the past …
I have to say … its nice to see in black and white the not-so-good lessons which unfortunately i have always based my life around … and as a result been hurt a bit by them …
I will however, take heed of these in future and protect myself
Not a nice post … awesome
Glad you enjoyed it and related to it hun!
The sad thing is, somehow we find it easier to learn the bad lessons than we do the good lessons. I guess we sometimes need a reminder to listen to our heads AND hearts and believe in ourselves.
I agree – lovely post Rox!
Those bad lessons really do stick around!
“There is no such thing as a happy ending”
Sometimes it almost feels easier to be jaded and cynical instead of optimistic and hopeful!Anything to avoid getting hurt!Definitely a bad lesson to learn!
Thanks hun!
The really ironic thing is that even with the lengths we go to to not get hurt, we end up buggering ourselves up so much anyway from having these thoughts. Crazy stuff indeed!
Love this post Fox;
Some real insight there, and you know these kinda things get me typing haha (…well this and b( o Y o )b thing)
As you know, I am an avid collector of quotes and insights … I found this rather amusing, cynical but very true when I got it via e-mail many many moons ago … and yes, I actually knew exactly where to find it in my backups while I read your post hahah… (yeah … I am a strange one – lets park that fact and look at the stuff below, shall we? )
I’ve learned…
I’ve learned – that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is stalk them and hope they panic and give in.
- I’ve learned – that no matter how much you care, some people are just assholes.
- I’ve learned – that it’s not what you have in your life that counts but how much you have in your bank accounts.
- I’ve learned – that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes. After that, you’d better have a big member or huge boobs.
- I’ve learned – that you shouldn’t compare yourself to others – they are more phucked up than you think.
- I’ve learned – that you can keep puking long after you think you’re finished.
- I’ve learned – that sometimes the people you expect to kick you when you’re down will be the ones who do.
- I’ve learned – that we don’t have to ditch bad friends because their disfunction makes us feel better about ourselves.
- I’ve learned – that overzealous power agents can change your life in a matter of seconds.
- I’ve learned – that the people you care most about in life are taken from you too soon. And all the less important ones just never go away.
Strange thing is … most of them already applied to my life.
Brilliant, absolutely spot on D – love those ones!
Those are like a balance of the good and bad, and are the ones that feature in acceptance and reality.
‘I’ve learned that you can keep puking long after you think you’re finished.’ … so true, on a figurative level especially!
HAHAHA,
You know … I actually thought of this very list once while puking bwhahahah, it was VERY desturbing yet gave me the assurance and acceptance that “this will take a while” hahahah!
In the “figurative” / “para” sence .. it makes a hell of a lot of sense too … remember that humans have pre-set alarm systems to everything that they are exposed to… i.e. “Don’t ever show your interest in a boy or reveal your feelings”… this is just an early reaction to previous “stimulus response”… although you actually can, and endure any consequences … Well, actually it applies to any warning that tells you that this is the end … it usually is not.
Hehehehe, brilliant words of wisdom from the master of wise words!
Now I feel old. :O
Nah, just enlightened.
No I feel better
Hahaha