This makes so much sense, just need to find that switch to decide who to fall in love with!
Boredom is the sensation you feel when you meet a nice man. No rockets explode, no stars fall from the sky.
In the absence of excitement you feel irritable and awkward.
You are used to negative traits and behavior and you feel comfortable with them.
You become fearful when a man is willing to be there for you emotionally as well as sexually.
Not having what you want on your long list is much more stimulating than having it.
A kind, loving, devoted man will never get your adrenaline running the way it use to run with your abusive, self centered, arrogant and obsessed ex-husband, sex works well when we are obsessed.
This kind man is not going to desert you, you can count on him.
He is deeply committed; the depth of his love is measured by the mutual trust and respect for each other.
May god grant you the wisdom to understand the difference, and the wisdom to re-assess your outlook on life.
That’s so brilliant Shoezilla. And so true. And makes so much sense out of where I’ve been recently. I just couldn’t seem to make sense out of “decent”, silly me.
Jam, this is things we know, but need to be reminded of often. Yeah, silly you!;)
They say men do not choose they fall in love with, but woman do…so maybe this blog is more applicable to woman?
SlidingDoors, I don’t know. I can’t choose who I fall in love with either! It just happens… or not.
This is a difficult topic. Deficit Needs in conflict.
Security and Love Needs vs. Basic Needs. Ak …!!
Terribly complicated stuff. “This conflict” made me a singleton after an 8 year relationship and this caused me to end up here on this blog typing this paragraph Hahaha…!
I know it’s difficult. We want the whole perfect package, but we are not.
1% of the entire populous of earth will reach Self Actualisation. The rest of us will simply fall into a bottomless pit of needs and wants.
At least we’ll always have something to strive for and look forward to.
Now *that* is something that I can relate too. It is rather crappy too just aspire. It is a bit of a wheel spinning in one place. Hence, my “dream†on limn (Jam’s blog) the other day. I am stuck in an up down see-saw in Maslow madness
I self actualise often – the thing about that is being aware of what it really is… and it translates to you. I get it as a warm fuzzy feeling when I have done something well, or as a smug feeling when I know I am on the right track with a project. The kak thing is that this ability to feel and recognise on major ‘emotion’ so to speak seems to vanish as soon as it has anothing to with lurve, lust or anything vaguely like that.
Rox, I guess it is one of life’s greatest misterys, love… One of the greatest feelings, it’s like a drug, being on a high for a couple of weeks/months. Addictive! Withdrawal symptoms can be so painful. Think I need to go to a rehab.
Daedalus hits REFRESH… Nothing happens…
Daedalus hits REFRESH… Nothing happens…
Daedalus hits REFRESH… Nothing happens…
/quit [ENTER]
D, you aspire, then you achieve that which you aspired for, and then you move up the hierarchy. You aspire for more once again. So you don’t stay in one place, you move forward and keep on aspiring. Capiss?
Daedalus hits REFRESH… Errrrr…